Being A Woman

WARNING: Views are strictly personal and events are true. If you feel offended, we do offer free therapy and mind you its not for your body but for your soul. This is an extension to the poem I wrote 13 years ago (my writing skills have rusted but the power to express is still alive: http://zivpreet.blogspot.in/2011/07/being-girl.html

Things said about feminism – girls want equality, equal rights, why should they get more important, etc. etc. Well, yes you are right. We are not your equal, rather better than you. There is a reason God created men and women differently because they are different. And today I can proudly bring across why “Being a Woman” is much greater than being a man.
 The ability to forgive is one of the toughest things you will ever have to do. And women constantly do that, they let go, they forgive. You may never find more depth in a human being than a woman. We might mock them for not being intelligent creatures, dumb wit, and other such synonyms (trust me I did too) but we do forget we have never shown them the world that we did to a boy who then, of course, grows up with the same notion with certain prejudice for women. Honestly I don’t blame them, and we are talking majority (salute to the exceptions made by society).
Men may never accept it but they can be easily defeated by almost any women. That’s how God intended it to be. Truth to be told didn’t men only portray women as their deities. They didn’t ask for it, this god forsaken thorn build crown was given to them by men. Then why enshrine them in temples and mistreat them in society. What just it brings to a woman who is physically weak (yes, again that’s how they were made) is beaten up by her own family members. Statistics say one of 10 working women face domestic violence at their homes. We have become tolerant to such mishaps and brush them under carpet saying “These things don’t happen in educated society.” Absolutely because until you have a bruised face and cut marks on your body you are not physically and mentally or even sexually abused.
Its rather unfortunate that in the modern India that we so poetically throttle in our fancy clubs has actually an altogether different reality. Today’s modern educated women have to be okay with her husband/boyfriend’s frivolous behaviour, promiscuous and narcissist lifestyle because yes she is still the provider to the family. Unluckily if women is the provider (or if she earns better than her husband) she is subjugated to ignominious criticism that her husband’s manhood cannot take.
This reminds me, of course, sex is the biggest power game. If you like his manhood, you are a slut, whore, or whatever good words there are in special misogynist men’s dictionary. And if you don’t like their manhood (their ability to please you in bed and 80% women are thinking do men really put an effort to please them. When?) you are termed even worse. For all the men who wonder does size matter, yes it does but so also the use of that. Its not about giving physical pleasure ,that’s the by-product. Its about having that trust, that feel you give to her. (I see some judgements coming my way, thank you so much for picturing this in your beloved mind, much appreciated)

I always say this to everyone, there are more than 60% of good looking women but only 20% men are actually good looking. Just imagine the compromise we do but you should thank God women don’t select men for their looks only (before we judge those few women who filter money like coffee in the vending machine, they constitute of very less % of the total women population). So what do men do, they classify women in category – serious girlfriend (for some its starts around 15-22, then around 28-32), timepass girlfriend (15-28), hook-up (if she agrees) (anytime), paid sex (for the ones who agree, no judgement) (anytime), and of course the most important one is wife (she has to sleep with him no matter what, poor lady). Apologies, I digress but do me a favor look around you what kind of men do you find. You will not imagine the stories I know (and they are real). All the educated men talk same crass words which I can’t write here (but still for example “cunt” in Hindi btw) for the women around them. They will not hesitate to label women just to make themselves feel better. Sad but true. Its about their convenience that the rules change. Anything that upsets them is illegitimate and anything that upsets women is irrational.
 If they cry, they are a drama queen. If they are hurt, they are weak. If they are successful, they are office sluts. If they are not, they are free-loaders stupid tom toms. If they talk a lot, they are ill-informed (rather than opinionated, mind it opinions can be wrong and if that’s the case happily correct them rather than mock them). Men don’t have any idea what kind of hormonal imbalance a woman goes through and this happens across the month so don’t blame it to the “special that time of the month”
Just once bear the pain of childbirth and you will get to know how much endurance women have and they go through to give life to another human being as oppose to your 2 min job.
Why do men forget women are beautiful creatures with the intent God had men were supposed to take care as much as women take care of everyone around them. Even if some of them have turned into stone-cold bitches they still have the unsaid love of a mother, a lover, a wife, a daughter, and every relationship she is put through, willingly or unwillingly, she will stand by it.
Do not put her down because its easier. Yes it might be an easy route but as God himself wanted a man to respect women, treat them with care. No matter how callous she is at times, she might irritate you, nag you (not saying you should be miserable with them), and remember that’s momentary. She means no harm to you. That’s not her nature, that’s not how she is meant to be. Simply put women are roots to the tree that you want to grow. If you want the future generation to be good, that’s where you plant your seeds (literally and figuratively).
Just ask for forgiveness and you shall be granted with one or just give love if that's missing irrespective of what relationship you have with her (mother, daughter, wife). It will not make you weak but you will get 1000 times more love, respect and things you wish these women should give you. Its not about controlling women by overpowering but letting them take that leap of faith without judging them. And as I said its in their nature, they will work it out!
No sexism implied for me who does consider her total dude, I say women are ahead of men. Respect them, love them, take care of them, let them go but just don’t judge them. Most women are afraid to do things they love because of the fear of being judged, so please don’t take away their potential because if you give them free space they will for sure find their paths and come back even more blossomed.

Salute to all of them for “Being a Woman”